Question #1:

should i leave my partner now?

i have been with my boyfriend for 14 months, for the first 9 months or so things were brilliant and when we had a minor fall out (either my fault or his) i would always go off in a huff and he would always be sorry, ask me to come back and we would always miss eachother alot. One day i walked and wouldnt speak to him for 4 days, he took the week off work and moped around his house because he couldnt "bear" to go outside and face the music while i wouldnt speak to him. We moved in together in june (3 months ago), the second night we moved in we had some friends round for drinks but after they left he started an arguement with me for no apparent reason and called me some awful names, told me he was in love with someone else and that he despised me because i forced him into moving here. I was in total shock as i'd never seen him act in this way ever and as he was shouting in my face, i grabbed him by throat so he then grabbed my arm and threw me across the floor and spat in my face. I threw him out of the house and he came back about 3 days later to return my mobile phone which he had taken with him when he left. I barely spoke to him because he wasnt the man i thought he was. We had a discussion and he said how sorry he was and he didnt mean any of it and it was because he had too much alcohol that night, i didnt fully trust him yet but thought i could maybe let him have another chance as we were both under alot of pressure with moving to a different town and having to buy furniture etc. A few weeks later i made the mistake of drinking in his company again when he flew off the handle at a silly argument again, infront of our guests this time, as they were leaving he was calling me names and looking at me as if i was something he had just stepped in! I will never forget the looks of disgust on his face when he was shouting the names at me. I will also mention that ever since we have lived here, i have cooked 99% of the meals, made his lunches for work alot, done all the housework and ironing, and give him lifts to work 15 miles away some days. I have done everything to try to please him and i dont mind doing all the house stuff but think he takes it for granted because i would never get a thankyou for any of it. Anyway we had been getting on well the past few weeks, kissing,cuddling and laughing and joking with eachother again. Every other weekend his two year old son from a previous relationship comes down to stay with us and sometimes can be very clingy, cries alot to get his own way, and throws tantrums. Sometimes i have to bite my lip before i say something about how his son behaves in this house, there was no discipline where the child is concerned but only recently after i told him that if he doesnt stop letting him get his own way now he will be worse to handle when he gets older. I think the main reason i am not very tolerant of his sons behaviour is because i have lost a big chunk of respect for my partner since what has happened here. Also he emotionally drains me most of the time he'll storm about the house,not speak to me, if i say something wrong or ask "a stupid question" to him he will start ranting at me calling me thick. Well last weekend we had a few beers each and watched some comedy dvds, then we started to drink some vodka (which i should have known would end up in disaster) we got into a discussion about cruelty to animals and children, he said since he had a son he doesnt give a toss about cruelty to animals, which he knows i feel very strongly about both. Then he said my mothers dog who means alot to me and who had been staying here over the holidays was always annoying him and didnt like it running about our house, then i couldnt help myself and said well your son runs about this house wrecking it and i dont say anything. Before i knew it he had me by throat and was shaking me, i managed to get free and then grabbed him by his throat and scraped the neck of him, as we kept attacking eachother he then grabbed me again by the hair this time and smacked my head off the wooden floor a few times until i gave up, meanwhile he was shouting if theres any marks on me you're dead and dont you ever talk about my son again, i was shouting back yes i'm sure he'd be so proud if he could see what kind of a monster you are. We have barely spoke since, i hate him but i dont want to lose this house and cannot afford it alone, i also dont want to go home with my tail between my legs with everyone knowing my relationship didnt work out. I also do not want to be the woman who takes this kind of treatment from a man and who makes excuses for it, 2 years ago if someone said this would happen to me i would never have believed it, laughed it off in fact. Please help i need good advice .

Question #2:

Does anyone know where I can get dollhouse furniture?

I have a dollhouse that I bought and assembled a few years back; I've finally gotten all of the rooms painted, and I'm getting ready to put in the floors. Then, I'll need some furniture.

I'm looking for 'collectible' furniture-- not children's plastic stuff, because it is a collectible dollhouse. That said, I also don't want something that is going to break the second I touch it--I want furniture that is durable.

I used to buy some from Hobby Lobby, but their selection has diminished, and their furniture was -very- delicate, and constantly broke.

I'm also looking for something that isn't very expensive, and I'm looking to furnish ALL the rooms. I don't mind ordering, as long as it's a reliable site.

I suppose I'm chasing a dream here, by looking for inexpensive, durable furniture--but any suggestions would be great. I'm open to everything. And, if it comes to it, I'm willing to pay more for something that will really last. The furniture from Hobby Lobby was quite expensive, especially compared to the quality.

Thank you :)

Question #3:

Opinions on letting your baby visit a smoking home?

My friend and I recently had a dispute because I finally came out and told her that I never visited her apartment because I didn't feel comfortable with my child (6 months old) being there because she (the friend) smokes cigarettes on a regular basis inside. She said it shouldn't matter because she doesn't smoke when the baby is there and she only smokes inside a few times a day. I am not a moron..I know that smoke seeps into the walls, furniture, etc. Also, her apartment smells like an ashtray mixed with dog pee. Honestly, parents, would YOU take your 6 month old baby there? Why or why not?

Question #4:

What to do after my house fire?

On Tuesday this week, my house caught fire. Our family of 5, including 3 children escaped unharmed. The damage was pretty extensive and the fire marshall and the insurance adjuster are calling the structure a total loss. We were buying the house on contract and there was only enough insurance to cover the mortgage on the house and the demolition. Our possessions were not covered by renter's insurance. Basically, everything we had is gone. There are some scraps of wood furniture that might survive the water damage but all our clothes, electronics, mattresses, couches, etc are ruined. The bright side is our landlord says he will give us the land the house set on after the mortgage is paid by the insurance company so we will own it free and clear.
My question is what to do now? Is there any assistance, grants, etc available to victims of fires to help with what insurance does not cover? Are there any forgiving mortgage companies out there that can use the value of the land as a down payment and look past bad credit so we can rebuild on the same land? Do any of you have any advice on anything we might be overlooking? The American Red Cross has given us a small food and clothing allowance and my father's church has paid for a hotel room until a week from Sunday.
Any assistance, guidance or advice during this trying time would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.

Question #5:

Rate my story? For the bored people?

It was an eerie Tuesday afternoon. The sky was gray, and the mood was dark. I was standing in front of my school, waiting for my Mom to pick me up. I came across some girls, who simply looked back at me and laughed. I stood behind a tree, listening to my iPod.

I glanced over to the other side of the bus bay. I saw a teenage boy; he was heavy set, wearing a white jumper and dark pants. He was giving me death stares. "What?" I yelled. He showed no emotion, and was closed off.

Feeling paranoid, I reached for my phone in my bag. He was walking towards me. I started walking in the opposite direction, down a old, dirt road. I called my friend, who took the first bus from school. "Ah, there's some guy following me; he looks really, really freaky..." - "What? Are you serious? Walk away!" - "I am!" - "Well, run!" I started to run further and further away.

He continued to follow me. "I can't keep on running - I'm feeling exhausted!" - "I have to go now - my stop's here, I have to get off..." - "Okay, he's still following me - I don't know what to do!" I hung up the phone, and put it in my pocket.

I ran towards the main road, gasping for air. I turned around, petrified; and he was gone. I looked around, and he was nowhere in sight. I reached for my phone in my pocket, and it had disappeared.

Panicking, I started searching the ground for my phone. I couldn't find it anywhere - it had vanished! I looked up, and I saw a wolf-type creature. I screamed and started running for my life.

It ran faster and faster, I started running for my life, until everything came to a halt. It grabbed me by my neck and strangled my throat. It made disturbing sounds while doing so.

I thought I was going to die; until suddenly, I could no longer see anything. I had lost all sound, sight and feelings. Everything turned black.

I woke up in an old, wooden house. The foundation of the house was completely demolished, no walls, flooring or furniture were to be seen in sight.

I got up, and felt the floor beneath me creek. I walked over to the window, where I saw a blanket box with a teddy bear sitting on it. The teddy bear had multi-colors, and was quite large. The eyes of the teddy bear were round and dark, with tiny specs of white in the pupil. It blinked twice. I was star struck, and walked over to the window. I kept my distance from the teddy, but I was very curious.

Outside, I saw several people with white masks (with no breathing holes), but wore regular everyday clothes. There was a little girl who had curly blonde hair, a pretty pink dress, and a pretty pink bow. She also had a white mask, but was acting like a normal child.

One of the men turned around and started to stare at me. He pointed at me, and said something to the others. I panicked, and sat straight down beneath the window...

Question #6:

Pregnant with a twin, miscarry, ectopic, etc?

I have had a lot of pregnancies, actually think I have had everything occur. First three ended within 6 weeks as a teenager, and I was told I probably would never have a child. At 20 I had my first son and the entire pregnancy seemed unreal since I kept thinking it was a matter of time before it ended in disaster. He was born perfect with no complications, no medicines, no hormone treatments, etc. Pregnancies five and six ended before 8 weeks with no reason. Tests came back fine for hormones, etc. Pregnancy seven was my second son, though I took progesterone because the test in the first trimester said my levels were too low and yet no one knows if that's the reason he is here today. Pregnancy eight ended at 12 weeks with question of blighted ovum, molar pregnancy, ectopic pregnancy, and still there was no final determination on what happened and why and I took progesterone the entire time. Pregnancy nine ended within 5 weeks for with no explanation, and I began to avoid the doctor since I tested for genetic disorders and anything else they could think of and nothing came back wrong. Now here is my tenth pregnancy. Yes, I was pregnant 10 times and three of those were within a six month period. I consider myself lucky for being able to get pregnany, and not so lucky for not being able to maintain them (doesn't matter if I wait a year or a month). I thought I was miscarrying at five weeks when I started bleeding. A week later, I feel more sick, tired, bloated, and hormonal. I know the pregnancy symptoms for me and when I start grouching over not getting a dinner idea from my guy while I am reorganizing the furniture, I know I am pregnant. I don't know if I should take another test, considering I am a queen in POAS results, I don't know if it would be a lost cause at this point or if I should just wait it out. I also don't know if I could have miscarried a twin, that's one that I haven't been through before and statistics say I have a 1 in 8 chance of that happening. Considering my history I think meeting that mark wouldn't be impossible. I just don't know what to do but for once I'd like to see my doctor without getting some bad news that I'll end up having to drag out in a series of blood tests for the next few weeks. Does anyone have something similar that there is always something wrong and genetic counselors and doctors and such can't figure out what it is? and then what would you do in a situation where you know something more is going on but you don't want to deal with any of those "experts" this time around?

Question #7:

How can I get media coverage on yahoo news? Do you care enough to help us do it? Please read our plight!?

We lost the use of our home to fire August 26, 2009. We were insured, All State denied our claim! They claimed we commited arson, they forced me to split up our family, they forced us into a one bedroom apartment, they black mailed us on everything by threatening us with non compliance of policy. They put us through 9 months of sheer hell begging for them to decide one way or another so we could move forward.After I finally informed them we had a public adjustor they within 36 hours denied our claim. Their abuse of us resulted in my father who has Alzheimer's ending up in a nursing home over 500 miles away from us due to all the changes he was subjected to although they knew from day one his health was very fragile! They expected us to be able to rent a place for 4 adults my parents, my husband, myself, and our then 4 year old son, and 3 small pedigree dogs. The temporary accomodations adjustor Heather Stone told me, " We don't care where you go, who you live with, if you have to get seperate houses or kennel your dogs. You have to get out of the motel". There were my elderly parents my mom was on a walker, I am totally disabled. And about 2 weeks before this my husband started passing an enormous amount of blood in his urine along with fist sized blood clots. When I took him to the ER they found a mass in his bladder. None of it mattered. He had surgery October 26, 2009, the 2 days prior to his surgery I had to move my family by myself. Mind you nothing mattered to All State I begged, I pleaded for them to give me until November 9, 2009 to be able to move into a 2 bedroom apartment. The money was there to pay for our additional living expenses! Yet we were forced to split up our family and into a one bedroom apartment. They removed everything we owned from our home, garage, and sunroom! They disposed of, stole, and had our things in an unsecure sight where even more was stolen! And from our furnished 3554 sq. ft. home we ended up with everything left in a 10' X 30' storage unit we have had to pay for. We are paying a mortgage payment that includes insurance payments to All State! They have renewed our policy and were paid from July 31, 2010- July 31, 2011. They get auto paid each month for car and life insurance! We are strapped no furniture no nothing in a dump because we don't want to lose our home. Mind you all our bills were current and the reason of claim is idiotic so much so that a child can see it is nothing but a big sham to commit consumer fraud! Anyone who can help please check out Sakura Jade Esposito on Facebook. I don't want money, I don't want fame, I want our home fixed so we can move on! We can't afford to fix our home, because we have to pay rent on a total dump and on storage fees and keep up all the All State policies! They have been paid every month. What happened was either a defective stove or human error on the cook stove! Please don't keep on going! Just please imagine this your home with your family and you leave for a medical procedure and you come home thinking there was a home invasion, Instead there has been a fire. And from that moment your life turns into a horrible nightmare. The home you were preparing for a new family of adopted siblings is gone. The large family you dreamed of all your life was gone, and your husband a 30 year retired Navy Veteran is accused of causing a fire. By placing matches in a skillet of cooking oil! Only thing is the debris from above the stove is in the pan and the matches directly above the skillets in the cabinet fell at some point onto the debris. UNDERSTAND: ON TOP OF THE DEBRIS! And then they tell a company, " Go ahead get rid of the debris and start demoing." Only to send and adjustor to check the house progress and determine all evidence of the fire has been gutted and removed. Then turn around and the same adjustor claimed he did not give ServPro the authorization to do it. They refuse to pay them and you end up with not only a burnt home but a lien on your burnt home! Then you apply for a 2 bedroom apartment and are denied because you have a mortgage and a new lien on the home for non payment. And your credit is destroyed. How would you feel? No one seems to care to try to help us get the word out. Will you please help us? Thank you...

Question #8:

What is up with the new Oval Office?

Did you see the new Oval Office decorating, it looks like something you would put in a finished lower level for children to hang out in. Even though the furniture may have been expensive it looks so cheap and not something that should be put in the Oval Office, and if Obama is so in touch with "middle class" America why is he spending tax payer dollars on unnecessary redecorating when there is this recession and services are getting cut? The furniture just looks so out of place, it looks like what a new money person would buy, and I guess Obama is new money so it does not surprise me! The furniture just lacks class, very Nouveau Riche.
I could only imagine how much controversy would be caused if a Republican did this, but then again I highly doubt a Republican would have such Nouveau Riche style.
I know I could not believe how many pictures of the family were around, it was a bit odd in my opinion. Who did he find to do that decorating it looks just horrible, those couches are not what should be in the White House, well maybe in the rec-room where Malia and Sasha play, but that is for the children, and not a formal room.
Oh good I am glad tax payer dollars did not go to that decorating!
Oh and for Rosy Red Dress, I am sorry to inform you but I live in a very large home, which people would consider to be an estate and it is furnished in a very formal traditional style, you probably could not afford the furniture we have in one room honey so do not talk about where I live when you do not have a clue. Our Keeping Room(Family Room) is decorated better than the Oval Office, and that is the informal part of the house. Our Living Room looks like what should be in the Oval Office, it is a nice formal room. I am not against the family photos, but a good decorator would tell you not to use too many because it will take away from the rest of the decor. I guess you are probably not a member of the ASID, my parents worked with ASID designers when decorating the homes we have lived in. They have also worked with many others who are involved with high end expensive decorating. So do not tell me I do not know decorating when I live with high-end formal decorating everyday!

Question #9:

Ever dated or been a divorced man?

I've been dating a great guy for 2 yrs. now and love him very much. He loves me as well ( said it first) and has been divorced for 2 yrs. He finalized the divorce two months after we started dating. They did not have children and have no reason to ever speak to each other again. He left the city they lived in together and has bought a house here. I've always felt a little concerned that he still loves her a lot and that I am second best. I've been very understanding that after having been with someone for 16 yrs, he's going to talk about their life together and that he will always love his ex parents in law. That's fine. Do I need to know that she was a great cook, had a really thin waist, loved spicy food, was extremely smart and beautiful? He doesn't say these things all the time, but it makes me wonder. The day he got all his furniture from the marriage decree, he called me drunk and told me about how he couldn't believe that she didn't care about the marriage and that they had been texting all day. Am I wasting my time on what is a rebound relationship for him, but real for me?

Question #10:

Why factory/manufacturing business tend to make a lot of profits?

Everytime I see people around me here in my country (Indonesia), it seems that the wealthy ones are usually the one whom:
1. do business (instead of just “normal jobs”), and also
2. do factory or manufacture kind of business, such as furniture, oil company, coal mining, etc etc.

My question is simple one, well, make it two:

1. Why or how come these type of business are always making very large amount of money & profits, and thus make the Owners wealthy, ie: i’m talking about buying three nice cars, a big house, can send their children to study overseas, etc

2. Is this really the only and ONLY way to get the most money (other than playing/investing in stock/financial market) nowadays??
what if let’s say I want to enter a music business (I’m an indie musician/songwriter), won’t I ever able to make as much money and wealth/profits as those type of businesses I’ve mentioned earlier?

Please give some general explanations of why this is (or SEEMS to be) often the case.
thanks.

Question #11:

What age did you get your child a double bed?

So - currently I´m living with my 12y/o niece and she has one of these narrow single beds that kids usually have. But I´m getting married in December so my niece, my fiancé and I are moving to a larger apartment and we´re buying all the furniture and stuff. I´ve been thinking that I could get my niece a double bed. I think it´s going to be more comfortable, her bedroom is large enough and once she´s older I would have to get her one anyways, so why not now? She likes the idea and my fiancé does not object either but the lady in the shop looked surprised and said that kids this young usually don´t have double beds. So I´m interested in what age you got a double bed for your child. Thank you.

Question #12:

What can we do; About custody issues?

This is a really long story, but I would very much appreciate it if someone can tell me what we can do.

My partner and I have been together for over two years. She has a brother who had a girlfriend/fiance that he was with for quite some time. They were not ready for children at all, but she ended up getting pregnant. She had one daughter who is three years old now. A year later, she had another daughter. She is two years old now.

Long story short: They are both drug addicts. The mother of the two is addicted to some really bad stuff. Meth, cocaine, marijuana, alcohol, etc. The father is a huge pot-head. At first, they lived in a trailer in which they would have parties with the kids there and when we would go over there this is what we would see: Both kids in only diapers (diapers that hadn't been changed in at least a day), hadn't been bathed in over a week, hungry, and attention starved because their parents were passed out on the floor along with multiple other people there. After they got kicked out of their trailer, the father moved back in with his dad (my partner's dad also) and the mother didn't really move in anywhere. She just kind of floated around and stayed at whoever's house had the drugs or booze.

As all of this was happening, the kids would either stay with their grandmother on their mothers side or their grandfather on their fathers side. They didn't have a steady home whatsoever. Every time they would come to my partner's father's house, they would be dirty and hungry. They would also have bruises and scratches all over them. We would clean them up (they were terrified of baths because they never got them) and feed them and take them to the park, etc. We could never keep them for more than a day or two before their grandmother would come over and scream to get them back.

She is crazy. Once or twice before, she has left them in the car (in a really bad neighborhood), in the dead of winter, with the engine off, so she could run up and just yell at their grandfather. Once, when I had the three year old out on a daytrip, she randomly starts telling me "Grandma hits..." and would not stop. After I confronted her and asked "Grandma hits you?" she would nod and say "Uh-huh..." but if I tried to ask her more about it, she would refuse to tell me any more and would simply tune me out or try to talk about something else.

Now the situation is this: The girls live permanently with their grandmother. The mother of the kids doesn't care about them and never sees them because she's too hopped up on meth. The grandmother will not ever let anyone see the girls. She keeps her doors locked and if we try to knock, she refuses to answer the door. The father of the girls and the grandfather have both tried to go over there and see them and she absolutely will not give in. The father doesn't care. He just wants to sit around and smoke pot all day and forget he has children. The grandfather is an alcoholic. They claim to have called the police because she won't let them see the girls, but I doubt they really have. They say the cops said "We can't do anything because she won't open the door." Anyway... Neither of the kids are potty trained. They're not being worked with to get potty trained.

We are very, very concerned about their well being. We both have jobs. We could have a babysitter lined up in minutes. We are completely drug and alcohol free. We have a two bedroom apartment and would be able to financially afford the kids. We believe we can give them a more stable and better home all around than they have ever had before. They would have their own room. My partner is 20 years old and I am 18. She is their aunt and she would be the one adopting them. Our apartment is clean, well kept, nice furniture, food in the cabinets, food in the refridgerator, etc. All they would have to do is drug test the mother and the father and they would never give them custody.

What can we do? Who do we talk to? Do we even have a possibility of getting custody? If not right now, in the distant or near future? How can we go about doing this? Is there a possibility that if we take them to court for custody, that the children could be put into foster care at all?


Thank you to whoever reads all of this. It is greatly appreciated.
Calmia22- Thank you so much for answering and reading all of it. I know it's long. Their grandmother does NOT have custody. They've never been to court over them. The parents don't care.

Question #13:

Non-Asian/Indian people: Do you find that Indian/Asian people treat you differently/rudely?

I'm biracial black/white...I've heard I look either Hispanic or Hawaiian/Polynesian. A lot of people say I'm beautiful and I am hit on a lot. This is mostly black/mexican/white guys...my point in adding this is that the reason I'm being treated weirdly can't be that I look bad.

I feel so unselfconsciouss around Asian and Indian people because of the way I've been treated. They act like they want nothing to do with me. I see Asian families with their kids and they'll see me and grab their kids hand and head off in another direction or the family will just stop talking/stop everything. Little Asian children stare at me often, sometimes with a glare. My sister went into the apartment complex's computer room yesterday where a young Indian boy and his mom were reading. Suddenly he whispers to his mom "I want to go home. I don't want to be in here anymore. Mom, please...let's go" and he continually looked back over at my sister. Everyone in our area(we live in the bay area of Cali) is Asian or Indian...I hardly see any white people(which is sad to me because I get along well with them whereas Asian/Indian people seem to group amongst themselves) I had an Indian couple over today looking to buy a piece of furniture and when I asked how they were doing, they didn't answer...I gave the man a measuring tape and when he was through he simply held out his arm with it dangling over his two fingers in a "take it, my inferior" manner. They weren't up for talking; when I tried, they looked at me like I was weird. It was so awful. I'm so sick of it. I hate the strange looks I get here...it makes me feel like trash, like they expect me to go back to the projects. I feel like it's because I look mexican or light-skinned black and there are hardly any in this area.

I had a lot of Asian friends and a few Indian in another area we lived in Cali, where the Asian students were not immigrants(they were Americanized)...the HS I went to senior year, near this area, was 70% Asian and 11% Filipino. I've heard there is racism among Asian immigrant families toward black people... I just really don't know what to do. I'm going to start at the community college here and don't know anyone...I don't know what to do if I'm treated like this by most of the other students.
Ha, I don't! It sucked cause I took up an interest in the Indian culture recently and then to see I'm not really good enough for them is crap.
Woah at the "unselfconciouss" up there...I double checked "self-conscious" with spell check and it gave me that...?
Haha, no I really do look Hispanic or Hawaiian....I've been asked often if I'm Hawaiian. I have more white features facially than black, no butt, and I straighten my hair, wear it down and long. I went to an all white HS for a year in Southern Oregon, in which I believe there were only 5 black people, three of which were biracial. I didn't have trouble there at all...I've actually experienced less racism with white people than other races. I don't "act" black. I'm not overreacting...I don't claim I've been beaten or fear getting beat. I'm simply saying we're avoided and treated as inferior. They keep at such a distance. It's pissy because I love different cultures yet other cultures are only willing to open up to their own.
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Question #14:

Are a wonderful, financially stable couple who'd make great parents better than a non-abusive natural mother?

I came across this post on The Secret Life of The American Teenager's IMDB forum:

"I've always been for adoption. The idea of a 16 year old girl raising a child rather than giving it to a family that can take actually care of it upsets me to no end, especially since my cousin Lisa & her husband [a wonderful, financially stable couple who'd make great parents] have been on an adoption waiting list for 3 years.

I mean everything is fine and dandy now, but what's going to happen when Amy needs to pay for her child's college tuition? Or what about when she starts living on her own [if that ever happens], how will she pay for rent, utilities, food, clothes, furniture, food, supplies, for her AND her child??
The child will most likely be neglected of many necessities."

First of all, the fact that her cousin has been on a waiting list for years proves that she wants a brand new infant, and shuns the possiblity of a special needs child or an older child from foster care. But what do you think of that post? Does that person strike you as being educated on adoption? And while I'm at it, if you watch that show, do you think it was right of Amy to keep her baby, especially since it appears that she had the support of her parents?

Here is the link to the post: Click Here

Question #15:

Evicted two days after the lease was sign because boyfriend is a smoker, he didn't smoke near the apartment?

So, my boyfriend and myself paid the first and last months rent along with a security deposit and then sign a lease on an apartment which at first seemed so perfect. We began moving our things in but decided we weren't going to move in until our furniture arrived. In the lease it clearly states that there is no smoking IN the apartment. Today we arrived at our apartment to find a note on the door saying " Hilary and Rod, don't move anything else into my apartment. We need to talk. I'll be back around 7 tonite." (yes he spelled tonight incorrectly) Needless to say we showed up at the apartment 15 minutes early thinking that our landlord needed to speak with us about the hardwood floors or something never to realize that he was going to evict us on our third day of being his tenants. We waited in our car until he arrived and he rudely said that he wants our stuff out of his apartment by tomorrow (the day we are leaving for vacation) and he will reimburse us our money. His "reasoning" is that someone he knows saw Rodney (my boyfriend) smoking. Not on his property but around town. Rodney has been trying to quit smoking for a very long time mainly because i am seven months pregnant and I don't want our child to be raised thinking it's okay to smoke and also because he's tired of having to pay for cigarettes, smelling like them, and that horrible smokers cough. Rodney rarely smokes anymore, only when he needs that little bit of nicotine to keep him going but he never smokes around me anymore because he's actually putting effort into quiting. We did some research and from what we gathered we can't be convicted unless we broke the lease or didn't pay the rent, but the thing is we didn't break the lease at all and we are paying multiple months of rent in advanced! The landlord claims that he has the right to just rip up the lease and have that be the end of it, but we are hoping we can take legal action. We just spent almost $3,000 on stuff to match that apartment and now what are we suppose to do with it all since we have to move back in with his parents. What i am trying to ask is, does he have a legitimate reason to evict us? He claims he has 3 days to change his mind on the lease but it says nowhere on the internet if he is telling the truth. Please help. We want to know if it's even worth taking legal action.

Question #16:

reposting as i was a little unclear. please help me...?

Ok this is gonna take a while to type all down but you kinda need to know the whole story before you give an opinion..
Right i was with the guy David for like two years. To cut that short it messed up and i mean seriously. we split and stopped talking for months on end. After a major depression and generally having no faith in myself I ended up finding my true feeling for Nick who had been there the whole time.
I got with Nick.. shared many memories with him but after three or four months of heaven and living together he became very possessive and controlling. He made me give up three jobs, stopped me from seeing my friends which resulted in me loosing those friends all except one who is my best friend, controlled what i wore, when i went out, who i went out with, he controlled my facebook and MSN, he logged all my chats onto his own personal computer(he was a computer geek) and eventually he stopped me from seeing my mum. Anyway i left that ******** and now I'm living with my mum until the contract on my flat goes through, Nick and i had a miscarriage of a very much wanted baby and instead of bringing us closer it made him a whole lot worse. He had a huge temper on him. Dont get me wrong he never hit me but he threw things at me, if i said something small to annoy him he would throw things around the house, breaking doors and furniture, putting holes in the walls and doors. just generally loosing his rag.
David is now back in the picture (i know i look really bad but im honest. i love david and always have. I loved nick too but that disappear for obvious reason) we have decided to give it another go as i have been separated from Nick for a while now and David has been there the whole time. We have spoken about kids (we've had a miscarriage also) etc as we both know that after everything we've been through and him changing his "mean" ways that we are literally made for each other..
Here's the bit i need help on...
im pregnant and it is Nick's! Nick and i dont talk anymore and tbh it has been the most peaceful months of my life.. PLEASE UNDERSTAND THAT I DO WANT TO TELL NICK BUT I AM TRYING TO THINK OF MY BABY'S AND MY MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH AND SAFETY. Im afraid that he was close to hitting me and thats why i eventually gave up trying to fix it.I know he has the rights to know but i have been considering either
1.not telling him until i get past six months as i have had two miscarriages due to stress and i am not prepared to loose another.
2. Not telling him at all until i know he isn't mentally unstable. But not hiding it from the child.
3. (David knows the baby is nicks)Not telling him at all and let David have his wish and have the child grow up thinking that David is their dad until the child ask questions.
4. Tell him and not let him have anything to with the child for the child's own safety.
5.Tell him and only give him visits under my supervision.

I am really confused. I need some help i dont know what to do. David has said that no matter what he will bring up the baby as his own. He already has a daughter and we have a really strong bond. almost like biological mother and child.

Question #17:

When should my daughter walk?

Hi all My daughter is almost 1 and i am trying to find out if anyone can shed some light on my situation..... My daughter is walking when she pushes a walker and also stands up on furniture and walks arount the furniture all the time. My problem is that as much as i try to hold her hands and get her to walk she just does not want to do it!! Has anyone else had a problem like this before?? Its almost like she is to scared to do it.....When should a child be walking by? This is my first so i am a bit unsure....Thanks in advance :-)

Question #18:

Head Lice Drama!!! PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!?

Ok, so i'm a mother of 2 small children, a daughter who is 4 and a son who is 1. Yesterday I discovered my daughter had head lice for the first time. I don't know where she got it...but I treated her hair, washed EVERYTHING in my home that could be washed, dried all the pillows and stuffed animals that couldn't be washed on high heat for 20 minutes, and sprayed the mattresses with the RID lice spray that you can get for furniture. We got nearly ever nit out of my daughters hair, but i'm sure we missed a few seeing as how she has hair down to her bottom and it's very thick. But there were no live bugs that I could see. But i'm freaking out because I have never dealt with head lice before!! I feel like I am never going to get it out of my house! About an hour after I did my daughters hair I saw a live bug on her forehead, not sure if it jumped from somewhere else or survived the treatment. Then tonight I get home from work and my son has 1 live bug in his hair, he has blonde hair which is pretty short so it was very easy to spot. I killed and it and proceeded to pick about 5 nits that I found in his hair out. Now I don't know what to do!!! Can someone PLEASE give me some advice...I am so stressed and overwhelmed. I feel dirty and like i'm doing something wrong :( Someone PLEASE PLEASE HELP!!!!!

Question #19:

Dealing with children cutting a path through my yard?

I live across the street from a school. The house originally belonged to my mother, and she kept an open path through the bushes in the backyard so children could pass through. This is because our backyard connects directly with an apartment complex, and without that pass the students would have to walk several blocks to reach the road the complex is actually on.

For the past few years the children have become an increasing nuisance. They linger in my yard for too long, and think my patio furniture is their private sitting area. There has also been vandalism to the side of my home, and last year I even caught two boys trying to pelt my cat with rocks. I talked to the school and asked them to advise students not to walk through my yard, but they insisted it wasn't their issue. I put up a sign out front saying my yard was private property, but it was torn down. The town won't permit me to put up a fence, and I know that if I plant hedges the children will just destroy them.

All my family ever wanted to do was make life easier for these kids, but they've spat on us for it. So what can I do?
As said I can't put up a fence. Apparently we have some local law about no fenced properties facing a school zone. It's messed up.

Question #20:

Where do I commit myself in Montreal?

I've been battling depressions for years, and I'm giving up. I really can't go it alone. I am an only child, both my parents are dead, I have no one in my life. The only person who'd notice would be my boss and my landlord. I work from home. I can't stand to go outside. I was doing really well until I couldn't afford my paxil anymore. It's been 2 1/2 years since then, and I wanted to get back on the drugs, but the doctor said it in my head. I know it is. I know there's something wrong with me to make my life so empty and feel so useless.

I want to commit myself. Even if that means losing all my furniture and belongings. I don't care about anything. I just don't know how to. I don't want to waste an ambulance drive. Please can someone tell me where in Montreal I can check into?

Please don't say the Douglas, I went there and asked already. They said I have to pass a psychological evaluation first, and every time I went to a hospital emergency to get evaluated they made me wait until the doctors were done, and then told me to come back tomorrow.

Also, if you know from first hand, what happens to my stuff and how do I get a place and a job after being released?

Thanks for the information. Please only serious answers.





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