Question: mother-in-law trying to pick furniture!!?

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Answer #1:

Id let her pick some things, like if you don't like the color, then you could suggest another? She is your mother-in-law, and its great that you don't want to hurt her feelings, just let her be a part of it.

Answer #2:

Yes, there are limits. And if you don't enforce them now, what do you think it will be like in a couple of years, or when you have children? Draw a line in the sand now. Everyone feels better when they know the rules, even mother-in-laws.

Answer #3:

Do NOT let her pick out your furniture.

This is your new place and you & your husband have an idea of what you want.

Don't tell her the next time you go to look at furniture. just say your going for a drive and leave immediately. Don't take her along!

Don't get into an argument about it- theres no point. just tell her you & your husband are still looking & haven't made up your mind yet & you'll consider her suggestions. [okay... you considered them... and they aren't what you want! ( lol ) just don't tell her this - its not worth the argument].

Buy the furniture you want and love! You deserve it!

When she comes over and complains, just say pleasantly, "Well...I'm sorry you feel uncomfortable but this is what we like & what we chose for our home."

When she says she doesn't feel welcome in your home because of your chair (or carpet or drapes, etc... roll of eyes ;P)
You say pleasantly, "Really? A chair makes you feel unwelcome? A piece of furniture? Really? Well, maybe you could CHOOSE to feel welcomed even if you don't like our choice in furniture - you could CHOOSE to feel welcome in our home because we love you & want to spend time with you. But if a curtain is more important to you than spending time with someone who loves you, I just don't know WHAT to say. I visit friends all the time that have different taste in furniture, but I would NEVER feel unwelcome because we like different things!"

sorry...but she's being petty and manipulative, and she does NOT get to pick out your furniture. Do NOT let her bully you into letting her pick it out.





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